Love The Job You're With

Love The Job You're With


Written by: Kerry Ito, MA, LCPC

Psychotherapist and Life Coach

As a psychotherapist and life coach, I often work with people who hate their jobs and for various reasons can’t leave. So, I advise that they make the best of the job they have until they can make a move by:


1. Thinking positive--this is more than changing “I’m going to get fired.” to “I’m not going to get fired.” You manifest what you focus on. So if you focus on “The State’s broke. They’ll cut funding to my program.” That’s what will happen! But if you turn it around and focus on: “I need to find alternate funding to keep this program going.” That’s what will happen!

2. Being proactive--Figure out what’s wrong with your job and what you can do to make it better. For example if you hate your boss, co-worker, whoever:

  • Reactive response: “I’ll just ignore the jerk!”
  • Proactive response: Identify the problem; what do you dislike about him? Is he micromanaging? Rude? Confusing? Unwilling to hear your ideas?
  • Acknowledge the other person’s point: “I know you want to make sure that this project is carried out according to the specifications you negotiated.”
  • Propose a solution: “Let me explain to you my understanding of the specifications, so you don’t have to stop what you are doing to direct me at each step of the process.”



3. Being competent--One of the most important aspects of job satisfaction is the belief that you are doing an effective job.

  • Assess your performance: Take a look at performance appraisals; look at quantitative data, such as number of complaints, time spent on tasks/calls.
  • What are you good at? What can you improve?
  • Assess the times you felt proud versus when you feel you missed the boat. What’s the difference?

4. Being the best you can be:

  • Take advantage of any training provided by your employer.
  • If you need to learn a skill or concept to make you better at your job that is not included in the training provided by your employer, it may be worth your time and money to obtain this training on your own.
  • Observe supervisors, co-workers, competitors who are good at what they do. Ask their advice.
  • Learn something new.
  • Share what you know with co-workers.
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